By: Kendell Lenice
Michelle and President Barack Obama are the picture perfect couple and you can’t help but to want what they have. If you believe in love, then it’s only natural to want true love. Most of us women are hopeless romantics and want our Knight and shining armor to sweep us off our feet and carry us into the land of love. Well, we tend to see the end result, such as a photo of a happy couple. We don’t see the behind the scenes work that was done to be successful in a solid relationship. If your goal is to have a terrific relationship as President and Mrs. Obama share, then you have to be willing to put in the grunt work. Here’s the thing, most people don’t want to put in the work and there lies the problem.
Through the Presidential Campaign there has been a lot of talk about the presidential couple! On Twitter and Facebook there have been debates between men and women. The men want their Michelle and the women want their Barack Obama. The question is… are you who you want? You can’t make such high demands and arguments if you aren’t who you want. Ladies you can’t say you want a man who is strong, sensitive, hard-working, family oriented , unselfish, kind, happy, God-fearing, etc. (Ladies you know your “want list” is long) if you don’t possess the same qualities. A selfish, mean, lazy, insensitive, unhappy woman will never attract a man who is the complete opposite. Let me correct that, they may attract that person, but the relationship will never be successful for very long. You must know that. You must accept that. Yes, I’m sure some will argue that opposites attract, but not in this case. Your tastes in movies may differ, that is something lightweight. If I like dramas and he likes comedies then yes that is opposite and we may still attract. Now if I am selfish and he is unselfish, then that will cause a major problem in the relationship. That is a heavyweight issue and the relationship is over before it’s started, in my opinion.
Before you can love someone, you have to first love yourself. It sounds like a cliché’ and it may be, but it’s true. How can you fully love someone and give your total heart to someone and you are insecure or feel unworthy? How can you expect love if you cannot give it? A lot of women don’t know how to accept love when it’s genuine because they don’t love themselves enough to know they are more than worthy of love. You have to know that you deserve the best and not settle for anything less that just that. When you truly love yourself you don’t have to settle for Mr. Right Now, you can wait patiently for Mr. Right. He will spot you in a crowded room if you are confident and secure. You won’t have to search for him; he will be right in front of you waiting to love you. When he comes make sure you are someone who he will want to love. The spotlight will shine directly on you and the light will come from within.
Now ladies, this doesn’t mean that the same doesn’t apply for the men who are looking for their “Michelle”. They can’t find that “perfect” women if they don’t have their lives in order, as well. This love street is a two-way street, full of hard turns, roadblocks, dead ends, detours, curves, yellow lights, stop signs and red lights. You may experience all of that, but the light will eventually turn green when it’s time to “go” after love the right way. When you witness the love that President Obama and The First Lady display so naturally, remember you can experience that as well, if you’re ready to put in the work. The work starts from within. It starts with you! The Obama’s have their own love story, that can’t be duplicated. Your love could be as great as you want it to be. The choice is yours. If you aren’t the person you want, then get to work on you! Be the best you, you can be and your Knight and Shining Armor will find you when it’s time. Until then, let’s continue to admire and support all the great couples out there. Take notes and learn from the positive, loving couples around you. One day it will be you that will be that example of love you’ve always wanted.