Are you a cheater or have you been cheated on?
Who cheats more women or men?
Why do people cheat is the real question. The answer to that may be different depending on the day or who you ask. Statics state that 17% of divorces are caused by infidelity. The statics also state that 70% of married men admit to have cheated on their wives, at some point. What do you think of that percentage? Is it high? Now that doesn’t mean women don’t cheat, because I’m sure we all know a woman who has cheated on their man too. The numbers have me thinking…… I guess we first have to define cheating. It’s funny because everyone has their own definition of cheating. To some people, cheating is communicating with someone of the opposite sex. To others it may be straight up sexual intercourse or sexual exchanges of any kind. To many “cheating” may be being emotionally involved with someone other than your mate. That’s why, if you’re not married, it’s important to have some clarity or definition on what type of relationship you have. When that is clear the guidelines can be clear. Your committment level needs to be discussed with your man. The definition of “cheating” needs to be clear as well. You can’t assume that you may have the same definition. It’s a conversation that needs to be had, especially if cheating is a deal breaker in your relationship.
Believe it or not, cheating isn’t a deal breaker in all relationships. I know a lot of women and men, that stay in relationships after their spouse/mate have cheated. That is a personal choice that the two parties have to agree upon. Do you believe if once a cheater, then always a cheater? If you believe that, then it’s useless and senseless to remain in a relationship with a cheater. If you believe that someone can make a mistake and that was the first and only time (that you know about), then it is up to the individuals in the relationship.
- They didn’t know that was considered “cheating“
- The Thrill
Some people cheat because they just want to and they can, and that’s real. There has been an argument between men and women on the issue. Men may say, “I love you, not her.” Some would argue that a person can’t love you if they hurt you by cheating. Women may say, “I didn’t really want to, but you paid me no attention.” Did he know that? Was it communicated? Believe it or not cheating is often times linked to communication. Men and women aren’t mind readers, we have to keep that in mind. Communication may be the repellant and make your relationship “cheat-proof.” Your relationship could be lacking something and the only way to find out is to communicate your feelings, thoughts and emotions to your mate. Most people may not want to cheat, but find themselves cheating. It only takes one time and the guilt may weigh heavy on your heart. You may not be able to take it. You just may ruin your relationship. Normally, it’s not even worth it. Before you take a drive to “Cheatville” think about your boo. How would you feel if it were done to you? Think about it.