Randomness of the Day!!!!

So you know I’m going to keep you ladies in the know about what’s going on with me… whether it be trying out a new restaurant or new product….

But today, this is about a friend; who I thought was a friend. He has told me on several occasions that he wanted to date me. And  me trying to be a good friend, I told him that I only see him as a friend. I was never physically attracted to him or anything of that nature. He would tell me all the time that I am gorgeous and so pretty; I took the compliment (of course) but never really told him anything in return that would make him think that I liked him.  Let me think. No, no I don’t remember a time when I ever told him that I liked him or even showed that I had romantic feelings for him.

There was that one time we went out and ate dinner. At the end he tried to kiss me; I moved away. My explanation was: “I don’t kiss on the first date,” that should have been some indication that I didn’t want to date dude.  Right? Wrong

It came up again today (11/29) in a text. It started by him complimenting on one of my Facebook photos.  During a text conversation I told him that I don’t think I am good dating material for you. He went on to say that I am. So I told him that I wasn’t attracted to him that way; I felt like he was more of a brother to me…

He get’s so pissed at me, that he told me never to talk to him again. I felt bad at first, but then I thought why I am feeling so bad. He even went as far as to delete me off Facebook and my Twitter…so, I wanna say, that he was only my friend because he thought that we would be something more. I just don’t get it. Is this what the world is coming to? You can’t be friends with someone unless you are dating or having sex with them.

What are some of your thoughts on the situation.  Should I say something else to him, or just leave it alone?  He is a great friend, but I never wanted to cross that line with him…

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9 responses to “Randomness of the Day!!!!

  1. You guys are great friends and he left the friendship rather abruptly which is weird. I think you should talk to him and ask what did you do wrong. Find out what’s on his mind. If he wants to end a friendship just because you don’t want a relationship with him then so be it.

  2. Don’t get upset but, I’m gonna say maybe he got a few mixed signals. I’m speaking from experience on this one. Eventhough you don’t like him like that, going out to dinner and then telling him you don’t kiss on the first date is a definite mixed signal. I realize why you said that though, you didn’t want to hurt his feelings because u care for your friend. Unfortunately, being assertive about your feelings is the only way to go. What I used to do in my situatin was make suggestions about other women that he could date, or say things like, ” I think u and her would make a nice couple” eventually he got the picture, but it didn’t ruin our friendship. Sounds like ur friend just got his ego crushed and he might need a little time. Don’t feel bad. You tried being nice about it. Just give it a few days, then call him. If the friendship is worth it, you’ll both work it out.

    • Thank you for responding… I would never get mad. This is why I decided to write this. To see what I did wrong, and to see if there was something that could be fixed, or just left alone. I never thought about, making that suggestion about other women… But, he’s still not talking to me, so I guess I will never know.

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