Is it love or just an act? Is love-making and sex the same thing? I took a small poll just to see what some thought; it was a difficult question for some to answer because some said it could be the same thing. As you know, something like this is debatable as there is no right or wrong answer. It’s all a matter of person opinion for the most part. So let me just break down my opinion and maybe you will agree and maybe you won’t. So here it goes!

Making love starts in the mind and can have nothing to do with sex at times. It’s an emotional passionate act that starts with a connection shared by two people. It can be passionate, emotional and spiritual if you let it. The love and respect have to be there in order to make love. Having sex is more of an act than an emotion, I believe. Can you have sex with someone you love? Yes you can. Can you make love with someone you “just” have sex with? Possibly, depending on the connection. There could be a very fine line depending on who you ask.

To me, love-making is mental. It starts long before you enter the bedroom. It’s starts with a simply “Good morning”, “How’s your day?”, “How are you feeling?”, “What are you wearing?” “You look sexy!”….etc etc. Whatever phrase you decided to use throughout the day via text or phone, throughout the day while you’re working. A simple picture of you or your man through text, can be a stimulate. Whatever the mental connection is for you. We all have something that turns us on or connects us to our mate.
While watching VH1′s show “Couples Therapy” Dr. Jenn Berman said something that was so true and relevant to all couples. She said, “Most couples just want to connect with one another throughout the day.” I couldn’t agree more. It’s that simple. That type of thinking is foreplay that leads to great love-making or sex , depending on the person. When you are in a good emotional state in your relationship the love intensifies and can be displayed in the bedroom. It may be called sex or love-making, but at that point it probably wouldn’t even matter. The act would connect you and your mate even more because your mental space was clear.

Whether you call it sex or love-making may change depending on who you are or who you are with. In the heat of the moment I don’t believe the term you use would matter. If you are with your boyfriend, fiancé or husband does it really even matter. As long as you have an understanding between the two of you, that’s all that matters!

Call it what you may, but make sure you practice safe sex or “safe love-making!”