If you like him, I love him. That’s how it really should be, but often times it isn’t like that. We tend to judge our friends and family’s mates and who they decide to love. We do it like it’s our lives or even our business. We feel that we somehow have the right to critic those that walk into our loved ones lives. Of course, we love our friends and family and don’t want them with anyone who will be harmful, but that is not just it. Some of us judge things based on looks, height, age, education, occupation, body type, etc. That is simply unfair, especially if our loved one are happy. How do we have the right to criticize anyone based on such frivolous things? “He’s cute, but he’s too short.” He’s not bad, but he is a blue-collar worker.” “He may not be for you because he didn’t graduate from college.” ” Yea, he treats you right, but he has kids.”
When it comes to love, none of that has to matter. If your mate is spiritually righteous, rich in culture and loves his family, what does any of that matter? Now, if the man is a murderer or threatening to your well-being then run for your life. That’s another thing all together, but if your potential mate is just missing a tooth on the side, take him to the dentist. 
That’s not grounds to dump him, especially if he’s good to you.
A lot of women will judge another’s man when they don’t even have a man of their own. That’s right I said it! I don’t think anyone should pass up on someone who may be the love of their life because they are getting grief from the ones who are supposed to love and care about them. It’s unfair and it’s hurtful.
So before you recklessly judge someone else’s relationship think about it first. As with everything, it’s always best to reverse the judgement. How would that make you feel if you were truly feeling someone? Would you want them to pass judgement or criticism on your choice?
The bottom line is everyone has their own life to live and life is short! You only live once and if you can find true love, take it! It’s okay to listen to opinions of those around you, but don’t let “their” opinion alter your organic feelings. Go with your true heart. Those who love you will have to respect your choice and get aboard. After all, it is your relationship or potential relationship. It needs to be given a fair chance without the opinions of others. Who cares what “they” say. “They” will have to understand that although their opinion is mentally noted, it is your life.
I love this article!! You pretty much hit the nail on everything. But how do you feel about a guy who has a past that involves being dvorced, children and a criminal record. Im in that situation now. We had issues that we have worked through. He has grown up A LOT we are in the process of moving in together. Im worried about how my family is going to respond bc they do not approve of his past. Whats a girl to do. My heart says go with it, my head says no.
Thank you so much! You are that person I was looking for!! Now the divorced part is no problem at all. That’s common, it happens! Some relationships don’t work out. Now we get to the criminal past part. Did you say it involved children? Did you find out what happened, is it true? Did you talk tAlk to him? For your safety for you and your children , if you have any check your states public records to find out the details for yourself. You have to be comfortable and secure with the relationship and his past before anyone else can.
Oh gosh no it doesnt involve children. I ment he has other children 2 from when he was married. We did talk about his criminal past. He’s a fellon. He isnt proud of that and had worked really hard to get his life back on track. He’s grown so much. We are comfortable with his past . We are suposed to move in together next month. My family doesn’t know….yet. I’m just worried my family will disown me. My family means a lot to me but I’m ready to move on with my life and be happy….with him.
Oh ok!!!! LOL girl if he has kids, that shouldn’t be a deal breaker for you. Don’t worry about what your family says if you are comfortable. I hope they don’t hope they disown you.
As far as the felony. I know someone that is a great guy that got a bad wrap when he was young and is a felon. He is now an adult, with a family, great job etc but he is still a felon. He is now an advocate for those like him, like your boyfriend. It’s difficult to escape your past. Everyone has a past and your family has to understand that. Hopefully in time they get to meet the man and not the title he carries.
Kendell 📝
💡Remember… “You are a “STARR” so don’t let anyone dim your shine!”
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Thank you so much! You are that person I was looking for!! Now the divorced part is no problem at all. That’s common, it happens! Some relationships don’t work out. Now we get to the criminal past part. Did you say it involved children? Did you find out what happened, is it true? Did you talk tAlk to him? For your safety for you and your children , if you have any check your states public records to find out the details for yourself. You have to be comfortable and secure with the relationship and his past before anyone else can.
Kendell 📝
💡Remember… “You are a “STARR” so don’t let anyone dim your shine!”
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Nice article Kendell you spoke the truth. I appreciate the honesty and clarity. People must know that you have to live your life for you because trying to live how others want you to will get you heartache and alone. The heart wants what it wants, you must make the ultimate decision on whether or not its good for you or if you will put up with what comes with the person you chose. You have to get it how you live and be happy.
Thank you!! Your life is yours for a reason! You will end up alone and u happy if you try to make everyone happy and dismiss your own.
Kendell 📝
💡Remember… “You are a “STARR” so don’t let anyone dim your shine!”
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