If you like him, I love him. That’s how it really should be, but often times it isn’t like that. We tend to judge our friends and family’s mates and who they decide to love. We do it like it’s our lives or even our business. We feel that we somehow have the right to critic those that walk into our loved ones lives. Of course, we love our friends and family and don’t want them with anyone who will be harmful, but that is not just it. Some of us judge things based on looks, height, age, education, occupation, body type, etc. That is simply unfair, especially if our loved one are happy. How do we have the right to criticize anyone based on such frivolous things? “He’s cute, but he’s too short.” He’s not bad, but he is a blue-collar worker.” “He may not be for you because he didn’t graduate from college.” ” Yea, he treats you right, but he has kids.”
When it comes to love, none of that has to matter. If your mate is spiritually righteous, rich in culture and loves his family, what does any of that matter? Now, if the man is a murderer or threatening to your well-being then run for your life. That’s another thing all together, but if your potential mate is just missing a tooth on the side, take him to the dentist. That’s not grounds to dump him, especially if he’s good to you.
A lot of women will judge another’s man when they don’t even have a man of their own. That’s right I said it! I don’t think anyone should pass up on someone who may be the love of their life because they are getting grief from the ones who are supposed to love and care about them. It’s unfair and it’s hurtful.
So before you recklessly judge someone else’s relationship think about it first. As with everything, it’s always best to reverse the judgement. How would that make you feel if you were truly feeling someone? Would you want them to pass judgement or criticism on your choice?
The bottom line is everyone has their own life to live and life is short! You only live once and if you can find true love, take it! It’s okay to listen to opinions of those around you, but don’t let “their” opinion alter your organic feelings. Go with your true heart. Those who love you will have to respect your choice and get aboard. After all, it is your relationship or potential relationship. It needs to be given a fair chance without the opinions of others. Who cares what “they” say. “They” will have to understand that although their opinion is mentally noted, it is your life.