When you are on the dating scene, ladies you need to pay attention to detail. While you are waiting for your soul mate to come along, get yourself in order. Make sure you are worth dating. Expect nothing but the best for yourself. Recently I have talked to several women that are unhappy in their current relationships. They feel like they are doing way too much in their relationships and getting way less in return.

A relationship isn’t a tit for tat situation, however “it takes two to make a thing go right.” Now it won’t be a 50/50 situation all the time, but if it’s a constant 80/20 then possibly things may have to be evaluated IF you are unhappy. If you aren’t unhappy and it works for your relationship, then that is all good. If your current relationship is 90/10 with you being the one that is constantly giving 90% of everything and your mate is giving only 10%, then it may be time to have a talk especially if the 10% is negative. There is nothing worst than someone withdrawing from you and not depositing anything or barely anything into the union. Of course this doesn’t mean you need to call your mate right now and end the relationship. However if you feel a certain type of way and it’s making you unhappy, then something has to be reorganized and re-structured. If you are married, the conversation would clearly be different from a couple that’s dating.

No one should sit in a relationship unhappy and silent.

There are several ways someone can make withdrawals from you:

• Emotionally – being constantly taken on an emotional rollercoaster
• Physically – not being there for you, but you are always there for them
• Spiritually – talking against your spiritually beliefs; being discouraging
• Financially – taking your money constantly and not doing anything in return
• Mentally – playing mind games with you; making you feel guilty when you shouldn’t

Some of these things will just zap you dry, especially when you are continuously depositing positively into someone else. Only you know what is right for you and when you’ve had enough. Nothing is a one size fits all approach to life or relationships. Only you know when you’ve had enough. I will say this, no one has the right to make you feel less than who you are. Accept and except nothing but the best for you. You are always worth it, flaws and all!

“You are a “STARR” so don’t let anyone dim your shine.”.