As a young woman, losing your virginity is one of the defining moments of your life. If you are at the point where you have made the decision to take this step, hopefully you have given careful consideration to all the aspects of such an important decision – being certain you have chosen the right person to take such a step with, being responsible by taking the necessary precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD’s, and choosing a safe, comfortable place to be intimate. There is also the subject of the discomfort that comes along with the first-time intercourse for a young lady. While some of the pain, by virtue of the physical act itself, is unavoidable, there are certain steps you can take to make the experience a bit less uncomfortable both physically and mentally. Having sex for the first time should be a memorable experience not for the pain it brought, but for the positive aspects. So, let’s discuss a few ways you can make your first time as enjoyable as possible.
While there will be a bit of physical discomfort involved no matter what, being mentally prepared is every bit as important as being physically ready. Take some time to get yourself into a serene state of mind rather than being anxious or nervous. Doing this will help your body to relax and this will lessen the physical pain to a degree. Give yourself time to fully prepare for what is going to occur, allow your thoughts to be about things that have led you and your partner to this very significant point in your relationship.
You may want to do a bit of reading on the subject of losing your virginity in order to have an idea as to what to expect from the experience. Also, learn a bit about your body and know what feels good to you; this is where masturbation can be beneficial. By exploring and knowing your own body and what and where a touch is arousing, you can help your partner to know as well. You don’t have to tell him, you can gently guide his hands to the places where you know you enjoy being touched. He will most likely enjoy this as well, as it will help him to learn to please you. The more aroused you are physically and the more pleasure you are experiencing initially, the easier the actual act of intercourse will be.
Once the two of you are in the moment, don’t feel rushed. Go slowly, don’t rush yourselves or one another. When the moment of actual penetration comes, you should be so aroused that the pain from your hymen breaking is barely noticeable, or that any pain fades away fairly quickly. It is a good idea to take a pain reliever an hour or so beforehand (note: if you are under the age of 19, do not take aspirin; opt instead for ibuprofen or something similar). This will help with any pain or discomfort.
The most important things to remember are to be safe and be certain you are ready for such a big step. It is just as important to make sure you are emotionally prepared to lose your virginity as it is to be physically prepared. If you have followed these steps, your first time can be the wonderful, pleasant experience it should be.